Summer X Mini bag

      I'm not a huge fan of summer. Aside form the flowers blooming, fun party's and my birthday. Summer is just not for me fashion wise. I like layering, and summer isn't that practical of a season for it unless pit stains are in. However with that said, summer does have its advantages, and this bag is one of them.

      This bag is so cute and fucking adorable. Being a realistic person, paying for college is pretty important and I've always thought that the Louis Vuitton Alma BB was just a dream. However thanks, to Coach and one amazing sale, this bag is just what I needed. It's not what I had in mind when I was thinking of my next handbag purchase, but it's still great nevertheless. 

      It fits everything I need, including a large chunky full size wallet. It transitions from day to night so well, and the removable strap really helps with that. Summer is an ok season for me, but hey this bag can make it better...I hope. 

Compromise

      As people, or just being human in general, do we need to follow a set code for humanity? Is it selfish that we want live our own lives? Or do we need too be selfless, and give up on apart of who we are, in order to make others happy? For the past few weeks I've been focused on this problem in my head... and it hurts. Like not physicality, but more in the feels, and also food choices I've been making lately. 

      The argument could be made that society requires us to be structured, and learn the ability to compromise. Like at work,one person gives up a part of them, in order to work with others, doing the job right, and ultimately getting paid. Or in my case, I swap out the normal milk in my Starbucks mocha iced latte, for soy. I tell myself that I'm saving calories, but being honest it hasn't helped. 

      And I feel like that's the problem with me all the time. The soy is nice and all, but I know that I could be enjoying the milk version instead. The calories are almost the same, and I'm less happy with the soy. Just like compromising with someone, that's not willing to compromise with you. It's just not pleasurable, because you had to lower your stance to make them work with you. It's not a win win situation, but more like a lose win. And the loser ends up being you when you compromise. Or me when I get soy over milk at Starbucks. 

     However should we then take the high road in this kinda of situation and be the bigger person? If we look at the end outcome alone, then it works. Or if we look at ourselves strictly in this kind of setting, then it's pretty bad. Just like the soy situation, in the end is save like 30 calories. However if I'm looking at myself I kinda wish that I had got the normal milk instead. 

      I don't know what to do with myself...do I give up apart of me for the grater good. Or do I use the "you do you." theory and focus on me. It's complicated.  

Antisocial

      Summer is in full force, as people are going out and having a fun time, I'm here...in my cute little home watching House on Netflix. Even worse, as one of my friends tried talking me into going to the mall with her, I rejected her plans to stay home. It was blunt, none of the "I have other plans." or "I can't right now, I'm busy." Just full on, bitch I wanna stay home. 

      After a tub of ice cream down, and a bag of popcorn later, I thought to myself, am I really a lame person. I mean, I do like some alone time with Netflix. But equally I also like some BFF time and bonding over food. (I also would like some boyfriend time, but that's on hold right now since I don't have one yet, and Grindr is not working liked planned.) 

      But in all honesty, does being a person that likes to stay in all day make me lame. I feel like all I need on some occasions are just the basics for survial, food, water, Netflix, wifi, my phone, a good sweater, and the blanket. That's it. Done, all the requirements I need to make my life better. Plus I forgot to mention Instagram, but that's in the list too. 

      However, when checking snapchat, I see everyone going out on fun road trips, job working, and having a good social life. And I'm just in bed chilling. I feel like I should be sad, or even mad at myself that I'm being antisocial. Or maybe I just like some me time. I don't know yet, what happens if I like me time too much, and I never leave the house again. Just kidding, that's me over thinking things again...or am I. 

Box Bag

      Currently I am so excited about this bag. Its just like a fancy box, in the color nude and it's in crocodile. Also it pretty close to the Celine Box bag, and that means I can now pay for college. Instead of deciding between my future career and being fashionable.

      I think it's the perfect summer bag for running errands and great for going from day to night. Or even better an emergency door stop when needed. The structure of this bag is so stiff that it does some times compromise the things you can fit into it,but other than that it's a great bag to use. 

      I've been styling this bag with just a T-shirt and jeans kinda look, being that it's so hot here since summer is rolling in full force. Also for a night out, I just take off the strap from the bag and carry it like a clutch with floral shorts, a black velvet blazer and a white cotton  shirt underneath.  

Jeans

      I think everyone has a pair jeans that they love. From hella distressed, to super new, or low waist, to high waisted we all like denim oneway or another. Denim is the only fabric that gets better with age, the more you wear it, the better it feels. Like cheese, but without the smell...I hope.

     A good pair of jeans that hug the ass just right, can make your day so much better. Or that denim jacket with all the patches can make you go from classy, to the cool bitch on the block. I mean denim has that interesting median effect on outfits.

      You can go for the stark white jeans, or the other end of the spectrum to black. Interestingly sometimes it's not even about the color, print or shiny stuff, on the jeans but simply knowing that it's denim makes you feel comfortable. Or even better double denim everyday.

 

      Denim is one of the best things that has ever happened to mankind. Every season we see denim appear left and right as a trend. But can we be honest with ourselves and say that denim is just apart of our everyday lives. Why does it need to be reoccurring trend if it's always been there? We should make denim a modern classic. 

For who...? Part 2

      As the last post asked, "Is your Instagram for you, or your followers?" Are we posting pictures of our coffee cups to grab the attention of others around the world? Or are we posting photos as a personal diary to ourselves?

      Before Instagram, we used our brains, to keep the memory of the photos in our minds making it...well a memory. However with the conception of Instagram, we can now not only take a snapshot of the memory and keep it, but we can also publicly share it with people around the world. Not only that, gain acknowledgement  with likes and comments from other coffee connoisseur. 

      So are we getting closer, to the personal and the private? Are we using Instagram to control both? In the 21st century noting seems the be private. As we over share our interest with others about coffee and shoes, that makes is focus on our followers...right? 

      Not so fast, this is also interesting if you look at it from the other point of view. Where one use their Instagram for themselves but then with a strong following changes that motive. That motive comes with the internist of keeping there followers. With those two situations in mind, does everyone who uses Instagram want followers? 

      We don't always know, Instagram is just so tricky when it comes to the user. Each of us are so different from one another, that we probably will never know what came first. The chicken or the egg, or in this case the account holder or the follower. The world will never know.

For Who?

      The average life expectancy of an Instagram photo is about four hours until it's lost in the world digital data. However is that bad, that ones photo of them drinking coffee is being replaced. Or is it good, that ones fed is being constantly refreshed with new content. It's an interesting dynamic when looking at the situation. 

      However does this then bring into question the idea of relevancy? Should something be relevant due to time, or it's worth. In the world of Instagram time is money, when it comes too likes. And in the real world that might be also taking place.

        Such as trend setting via street stylist and power bloggers like Man Repeller and Song of Style. Where the use of a strong social media following and influence can be a way for companies to reach out to a large crowd with one picture of a bag or #ootd. You could argue that this issue of time, where the trend is an "it" version of the boyfriend jean or a bag. But this could also be due to the fact that the worth is placed in these products because of of those specific influencers giving the time of day of taking that pic for Instagram. Or possibly could it be both? 

      A major example is the Chanel Boy bag. Most thought the bag was going to only last a season or two, due to it's massive difference to Chanel's classic collections. However the bag is reaching the statues of a modern classic fast, because of  powerful fashion bloggers and good PR work. Chanel reaching out to celebrities, magazine publication and power bloggers, created a desire for the bag. This only then builds a strong social status connected to the bag . Where you're only cool if you have it, and the persona of "you can't sit with us." So therefore leads to a worth that is placed in the bag itself. 

      Dealing with the 21st century seems to be a challenge. With technology growing day by day, and numerous photos that are being uploaded on Instagram, it seems that one must master the art of balancing of being relevant. Not only to ones self, but also keeping in mind what is relevant to their followers. So this propose the question, is your Instagram for you or your followers? 

Denim

      Im the kind of person that doesn't care for denim that much, it's there and at the same time it's not there. I could go for any other textile in the world, but denim not so much. Until  I stumbled into the whole section of denim shirts at TJMaxx late one night. And, might I add that it was mind blowing a experience in all the right ways. Not that brain matter flew around, but that I was lost into a fantasy land made of clothes.   

      I mean for the quest of love it was all so soft and all oh so blue. But, I won't lie it was kind of a challenge to pick out one shirt that I loved. The prejudgment I had of denim was already negative. However, looking at them all gave me a since of "opes I was wrong about denim" and more of the feeling "of wow is that a cropped denim shirt, oh wait this is a child's small."

     I had to make up my mind, do I go for the trendy ombré, the worn light wash, the throwback acid wash, or the fresh out of the factory dark wash. This gave me a headache that no large Coke from McDonald's could handle. 

      So it was then I found the good averge of the four. The medium wash, with my kind of logic that took  me forever to figure that out. But this was a pretty chic might I say, it was extremely soft to the fingers with the classic stiffness of denim and also lucky for me it was in a medium. 

      As I began to walk to the counter for check out, I also found another shirt that was just hanging there as the store lights made it glow with grace. And no it was not cropped or a child's small. But a medical scientific descovery that I could have cried over for days with no need for the compensation of ice cream that could stop it. It was a Vince denim shirt made with love in every stitch, and schockingly for only $49.99, I did not cry but I sure did run to that check out like a mad women on crack. When at the counter I felt the feeling of happiness fill my little heart. 

      So the moral of the story was that never  have prejudgment on denim as it is so amazing on the body. And finally don't run to the check out like a made woman as I did almost fall flat on my face. 

Mini

      Life is full of big people situation, from that failed text message to your boy toy about that lunch date for the weekend. Or your BFF is just not in the mood too hangout, when she just went through the Mt.Everest in understanding that her relationship status is single. Yeah, life is filled with a lot of sucky situations that we all have to face. And the worst part is, why are we lugging a big tote around with our emotions in it, when we can carry a mini bag and look super cute? 

      I mean the logic here is that the bigger the bag, the more room we can stuff it with our feelings from hell. And let's be real here, who seriously wants to carry a bag like that with them all day, and deal with the feels that will only bring us down after a long day of shopping. I surely don't want to, and the last time I checked none of us don't want to deal with them feels. That's why there's ice cream people, it helps a lot. 

      So now back on the track of logic, if we carry a big bag with all the feelings in it. Then we should carry a mini bag and then be selective with our emotions that we carry. I know it took me forever to figure this out too so we are on the same sailboat here. With a bag that small we can at lest deal with are feelings now...right? 

      This is where things can get a tad tricky, and I'm not taking about the selection of the bag, as that can get hard too. But, I mean the emotions that we can force into our bags. I mean my Coach Penny bag in fuchsia is so small and I have to fit all my feelings into it. 

      So with logic on my side, happiness is my wallet, and well my full size wallet is not going to fit in this poor baby. I down sized it into my Fossil coin purse in Tiffany blue. (Im not limiting my happiness here as I still am carrying the same things that I need, but in a smaller size of.) Then my Coach coin purse is hunger and I just keep it as is, I'm a always hungry so that's not changing anytime soon. Then my stress is in my flash drive, that goes in the front pocket to be away from my other feelings. And there is freedom as it is founded in my keys. (I drive a Saturn VUE, she's not super pretty but she is my BFF that is in silver.) Then sadness stays at home, because I ran out of room in my bags to fit it in. 

     I know what your thinking, this sounds so lame and why are you placing your feelings into objects that have no real life purpose at all. Well it's pretty simple, we carry all of these items with is on the daily. And we also most likely all carry our feelings on the same shoulder we carry our bags. 

      So when looking at it from that prospective, we should all be carrying our emotions that we only need and that makes us happy to be who we are. Why are are we carrying around all this extra unneeded baggage with us. That's why there's the magic of the mini bag, it's so little because it makes us selective on what we need to carry. 

       So, it's not really doing anything more then makeing us happy at the end of the day from shopping. Plus, it's so cute, and so tiny, and kinda not proportional to our body's that's makes them so adorable. So mini bags are awesome in style and awesome psychotherapist at work in our wardrobes. 

Handheld.

     It's summer and no one want too carry a large bag, that's why clutches are real. They come in all different sizes both big and small, and this little beauty is by Pour La Victoire. I think I started to fall in love with clutches and handheld bags around last year as they are so simple. I think there are so versatile and also transitions well from day to night. This clutch is both practical and fashionable for everyday use. As this one bag has so many layers and textures,it makes a great statement pice on a t-shirts and jeans kinda day. 

Unknown

     It's the feeling that makes you weak, from within. An understanding that sometimes things just happen. But do they happen with a purpose or just by luck. It's the mystery that bothers me, the unknown that occurs out of no where. And not knowing what happens next is scary. Yet can it be exciting? Sometimes I'm not sure how to feel. The anticipation withers  my mind away, and the pain that it creates. Crying is a good way to muddle the feeling. Food makes the feeling dull and numb and palatable. Or starvation, that makes the feeling seem less important as food is always on the mind. 

Lost

   Summer is here, and I'm kind of ready. Graduation was yesterday, and I'm completely lost on what to do now. My high school life is over and a new chapter in life awaits for me. But the scary part is that I don't know what these next chapters are. All I know is that one of them consist of college and the other is death. However, that could be a good thing? Living life day by day, and knowing that each day is different because we are the ones that write them. Or is that too optimistic of an outlook? I mean life is hard, should we make it more fun? Should we all take that lemon conundrum to heart and make some lemonade to drink? Big questions and no real answer...or maybe I answered them.