Compromise

      As people, or just being human in general, do we need to follow a set code for humanity? Is it selfish that we want live our own lives? Or do we need too be selfless, and give up on apart of who we are, in order to make others happy? For the past few weeks I've been focused on this problem in my head... and it hurts. Like not physicality, but more in the feels, and also food choices I've been making lately. 

      The argument could be made that society requires us to be structured, and learn the ability to compromise. Like at work,one person gives up a part of them, in order to work with others, doing the job right, and ultimately getting paid. Or in my case, I swap out the normal milk in my Starbucks mocha iced latte, for soy. I tell myself that I'm saving calories, but being honest it hasn't helped. 

      And I feel like that's the problem with me all the time. The soy is nice and all, but I know that I could be enjoying the milk version instead. The calories are almost the same, and I'm less happy with the soy. Just like compromising with someone, that's not willing to compromise with you. It's just not pleasurable, because you had to lower your stance to make them work with you. It's not a win win situation, but more like a lose win. And the loser ends up being you when you compromise. Or me when I get soy over milk at Starbucks. 

     However should we then take the high road in this kinda of situation and be the bigger person? If we look at the end outcome alone, then it works. Or if we look at ourselves strictly in this kind of setting, then it's pretty bad. Just like the soy situation, in the end is save like 30 calories. However if I'm looking at myself I kinda wish that I had got the normal milk instead. 

      I don't know what to do with myself...do I give up apart of me for the grater good. Or do I use the "you do you." theory and focus on me. It's complicated.